Lets face it…we all want a magic bullet when it comes to body transformation! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard people say “Isn’t there something I can do to make this happen faster?” or “Isn’t there some super secret trick that will melt the pounds off?” I wish! If I knew a magic bullet that would just melt the pounds away with minimal effort, I would be a billionaire! The truth is, there are secrets to sustainable body transformation, but they are probably not the ones you think or even really want to hear. And because I do not believe in sugar coating things, I am going to tell you how it is.
1. You have to accept where you are right now
Acceptance can be a very difficult task when you have a lot of weight to lose. It’s likely you have been living in some form of self-deprecation, possibly even self-loathing, for quite some time. The first thing you need to realize about making sustainable change is that there is no place for self-deprecation or self-loathing. Change only occurs when you accept where you are right now and show yourself some compassion and self-love. Circumstances and situations occur in our lives that lead to weight gain, which in turn leads to self-loathing, but this does not have to be the case. You can make changes that lead to sustainable transformation, you just have to accept where you are and believe you are capable of change.
2. You have to WANT to change MORE than you want to stay the same
This is a big one! This is usually where people trip up right out the gate. Most people think they want to change, but when you get down to it, they are not willing to do the things they have to do to make change occur. They somehow think that they will be able to carry on with their lives in much the same way they currently do. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but nothing EVER changes by staying the same. That is a FACT. But the good news is, there is always hope and there is always an opportunity for you to commit to yourself and build the desire it takes to make sustainable transformation a reality.
There are some easy ways to start to build inner desire that is real and lasting. Attaching yourself to purely vanity-based goals or short-term strategies to achieve quick success, do not equate to sustainable transformation. That is why I always ask my clients to dig deeper for their true WHY. Why is transformation so important to you? What is the life you see for yourself when you’ve achieved this transformation?
Start to think in terms of the long game and what achieving your goals really means to you (besides looking hot in a bikini ;)). This is not to say, there is ZERO place for vanity-based goals, but try not to make them a focal of your WHY. A healthy way to look at a vanity-based goal would be like this, “I want to fit into my favorite pair of jeans again because when I wear them I feel sexy.” This is how I want you to reframe any goals you have that are related to vanity. For the others, I want you to think in terms of how transformation will alter the course of your life! Think big! Think in terms of what being the strongest version of yourself will enable you to do. Good examples of these types of big picture goals, are things like, “I want to be healthier so I can keep up with my kids and eventually my grandkids!” These are super powerful WHYS and should be at the center of any desire you have to make a change.
3. You have to start slow and build forward momentum
So many people fail when it comes to embarking on a body transformation because they try to do too many things at once! They follow diet and exercise plans that are simply unsustainable at best and self-sabotaging at worst. Like I said, we are after sustainability and anything that makes you go through measures that make you go crazy or make you feel like quitting constantly, is not a recipe for sustainable transformation. And why do I say these methods are a form of self-sabotage? Because inevitably, you will do a whole bunch of things you don’t really want to do to achieve a short term result, leading to a rebound effect where you essentially gain back all you lost, and oftentimes more 😦 You don’t learn the actual skills you need to possess in order to make the change lasting. By starting small, you get to focus on achievable small gains that compound over time, leading to sustainable lifestyle change and transformation.
4. You have to have support
If you think you can go it alone when trying to make HUGE life changes, you better think again 😦 It’s when you’re alone and unsupported that you will be most prone to veer off track. Tell me if this sounds familiar at all.
You go to a family BBQ. Your family knows you are trying to make some big changes, yet they continue to offer you food that does not help you achieve your goals or downright derails you from your goals. You inevitably feel pressure to indulge in those foods, which sends you into the awful downward spiral of continuing to stay off track. Thanks family!
I’ve seen this scenario play out in my life and countless other people’s lives. So how do we ensure we are supported in a way that enables us to make the kind of sustainable transformation we are after?
We demand it! We tell our friends and our family how important this journey is and how making sustainable change is non-negotiable to you. And that you need them to support you 100% in order for you to be successful. They need to stop pressuring you, stop tempting you and get onboard with supporting you in whatever way they can.
I know this can be a touchy subject for some because for many people, food = love. But I would be doing you a disservice if I didn’t tell you how much having the support of your friends and family can be the difference between short term success that leads to long term failure and realizing your full potential and making sustainable, lasting change. Bottom line…JUST ASK!
5. You have to be held accountable
Accountability is the last critical piece to any sustainable transformation. Because the truth is, at some point and possibly at many points, you are going to want to quit. You are going to be going outside your comfort zone on multiple occasions and without someone to hold you accountable, it becomes very easy to slip back into old, undesirable habits or routines.
Having accountability makes you put more skin in the game, so to speak, because often there is a financial, time and resource investment. I don’t know what it is about being accountable to someone other than ourselves that makes us that much more driven to succeed, but it works and it works wonders! One of the fascinating aspects of the human mind. We seem to be more motivated to stay the course when we are going through it with others that can share in the journey and offer advice and insight, especially in those moments where you feel like giving up.
There you have it. Might not have been the most obvious advice, but hopefully it has inspired you to take a look at how you’ve been approaching a decision to make a big change in your life. If you are after sustainable transformation I urge you to follow this advice and put it into practice. And if you’re looking for that critical accountability piece, I offer a number of different coaching packages that are all about helping you build forward momentum and finally achieve sustainable transformation.
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