When I dare to be powerful – to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.
– Audre Lorde
I know this is a day late, seeing as #internationalwomensday was yesterday, but I really wanted to find the exact sentiment to express how I felt about being a woman, being strong and going after what you want. And seeing as Strength is the central theme of this blog, I thought nothing more appropriate than discussing strength and vision and overcoming fear to become what you desire to be.
Inherently, us women, are powerful and highly capable beings. We often let fear or, it’s nasty cousin, doubt, get in the way of us acheiehing the things we want out of life. This is not to say every single one of us is out to achieve great things, like a Rosa Parks, Amelia Earhart or Hillary Clinton. That’s not even what this is about. We all search for meaning in our lives and seek out our purpose. But what if we flipped this notion on its head, and instead of seeking our purpose, we seek to live on purpose.
Because purpose is one of those things that can be very hard to ascertain, and something that can often keep us women up at night, particularly when we are going through some sort of crossroads where we are seeking answers and clarity, I ask you to start thinking in terms of living on purpose rather than with purpose. It can take a lifetime to determine one’s purpose or it can never be determined at all. We are not all so lucky as to know from birth what our purpose on this earth really is, but I am here to tell you that is ok. It is actually more than ok. In reality it helps remove a lot of the fear, stress and frustration of trying to determine what our purpose is. If we simply know we were intended to connect with others and be true to ourselves as much as possible, purpose does not seem nearly as important. Instead I choose to live my life on purpose and put my energy and efforts into the things that bring me joy (some may say bring me purpose). For me this is not a long list nor a particularly lofty one, but this list is mine and mine alone, just as yours is yours and yours alone. You determine what is worthy of your stength, passion and energy and you do those things on purpose, daily if you can.
So what does this list look like for me? I choose to focus on family, friends, health and community. This is not to say work is not an important element of my life, but it is not the thing that brings a sense of “purpose” to my life. My connection to my inner circle fuels this fire of strength within me. It makes me want to be the best version of myself possible and keeps my cup full. And when my cup is full, I do not fear going after what I want. It actually ignites a bigger fire in my heart for living a life on purpose and not just letting life come to me.
So whatever vision you have for yourself or your life, approach it from the angle of living your life on purpose instead of seeking to find purpose. In the process you will come to find the strength it requires to live the life you desire and to go after those things you want out of life, in the absence of fear.
You are powerful. You are strong. You are not afraid. You are on purpose.
Stronger on purpose,